The Importance of Really Listening


One of the greatest gifts we can give someone is to listen to them, and let them feel known and understood.

My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.
(James 1:19)

  • Listening is not only a loving act; it is also a Godly act.
  • Many people tend to be quick to speak and slow to listen, which is why many relationships remain stuck, making no progress, because both people are focused on being understood rather than seeking to understand.
  • This desire to be understood (heard/seen) is a deep and universal longing, and bc it is, when someone takes the time to really listen to us, we feel cared and valuable.
  • When we seek to understand another person, we give him or her a great gift.
  • If we continually turn the conversation to us and our accomplishments, we are most likely working to make ourselves look good to others in order to assure them – and our own selves – that we have value. Doing this, we not only don’t accomplish what we hope for, we communicate a lack of value to the other person. Jesus said, “He who speaks from himself seeks his own glory.” (John 7:18) How much better when praise comes from someone else 🙂 “Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; someone else, and not your own lips.” (Proverbs 27:2)

➜ Ask God what you can do to become a better listener. What motivates you to listen when you do listen well?

➜  Ask the Holy Spirit to remind you to honor and love the people you’re with by giving them the gift of listening well. Ask the HS to help you especially seek to understand the other person when you feel misunderstood. And thank the HS for always listening to and understanding you! 😉


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